What Elements Are Important For Your Wedding?

When I meet with couples for an initial consultation, I usually ask them to tell me about the BEST wedding and the WORST wedding they’ve attended. I ask them to tell me their experiences individually not as a couple. Asking this question helps me see what wedding elements are most important to each of them. Their BEST wedding example shows me what should be the focus of their big day…beside the actual wedding and marriage of course. Their WORST wedding shows me the things they’d least like to see at their wedding.

I met with prospective clients and I posed my question to them. The bride’s “best” was a wedding where the couple used elements from their native New York City. She incorporated post cards with NY landmarks into their table numbers and other wedding items. The groom’s “best” was a garden wedding with about 40-50 guests which he described as intimate and elegant. The bride couldn’t think of a “worst” pick at that time. The groom however, quickly mentioned a wedding he attended where guests arrived in casual attire (jeans, khakis, etc.) and the ceremony started very late.

All of their comments told me that the bride wanted a wedding that included unique, personal touches that would represent them as a couple and the groom wanted a formal (not black tie) wedding that was timely.  Fortunately, that exercise helped them see what was most important to them as well.

So before you hit the ground running with your wedding planning, take a moment to think about the best and worst weddings you’ve attended. It might help you hone in on specific elements you’d really like for you own wedding.

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