I met with prospective clients and I posed my question to them. The bride’s “best” was a wedding where the couple used elements from their native New York City. She incorporated post cards with NY landmarks into their table numbers and other wedding items. The groom’s “best” was a garden wedding with about 40-50 guests which he described as intimate and elegant. The bride couldn’t think of a “worst” pick at that time. The groom however, quickly mentioned a wedding he attended where guests arrived in casual attire (jeans, khakis, etc.) and the ceremony started very late.

All of their comments told me that the bride wanted a wedding that included unique, personal touches that would represent them as a couple and the groom wanted a formal (not black tie) wedding that was timely.  Fortunately, that exercise helped them see what was most important to them as well.

So before you hit the ground running with your wedding planning, take a moment to think about the best and worst weddings you’ve attended. It might help you hone in on specific elements you’d really like for you own wedding.